- Arousal Inhibitions
- For men, this often manifests as Erectile Dysfunction (ED) – the consistent inability to obtain and/or maintain a firm erection long enough to have intercourse or orgasm.
- For women, this often manifests as Dysparunia – uncomfortable or painful intercourse; or Sexual Arousal Disorder � the inability to have sustained sexual activity with adequate lubrication.
- Orgasmic and/or Ejaculatory Inhibitions
- For men, this often manifests as Delayed Ejaculation – an inability or persistent difficulty in achieving ejaculation and/or orgasm; or Premature Ejaculation – persistent difficulty with ejaculatory control before or shortly after penetration, ejaculating sooner than ideally desired.
- For women, this often manifests as Anorgasmia – never having achieved an orgasm, or the loss of ability to achieve one.
- Desire Discrepancies
- For individuals, this may manifest as Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder (HSDD) - minimal or absent sexual fantasies and desire for sexual activity.
- For couples, this may manifest as disagreement between partners regarding how much sex each desires.
- Marital Conflict
- For couples, this often manifests as life Stress that Stifles sexual, spiritual, emotional, intellectual, and/or physical Intimacy.
- Miscommunication
- For couples, families, or friends, this often manifests as Diminished or Ineffective Verbal and/or Nonverbal Communication of needs and desires required to operate in any relationship.
- Infidelity
- For couples, this often manifests as a Breach of Trust where mutually agreed-upon rules or boundaries in an intimate relationship have been violated.
- Gender Issues
- For individuals, this may manifest as an exploration of gender identity, or recognizing and appreciating a Transgender Identity.
- For couples, this may manifest as the renegotiation and navigation of an intimate relationship where a new gender identity is introduced.
- Sexual Orientation Issues
- This often manifests as the journey of self-acceptance during the Coming Out Process as individuals explore erotic or emotional attraction to someone of the same sex/gender.
- Fetishes
- For individuals, this often manifests as Distress regarding sexual arousal towards objects, situations, or body parts not conventionally viewed as being sexual in nature.
- For couples, this often manifests as a Relationship Renegotiation related to Including or Excluding the sexual fetish.
- Compulsive Sexual Behavior
- For individuals, this often manifests as Difficulty in Managing Sexual Behavior and Urges.
- For couples, this manifests as an unearthing of sexual secrets and an exploration of intimate voids required for rebuilding trust and healing.
- Alternative Lifestyles
- For individuals, this may manifest as an Exploration and Identification with a typically Nonconventional Subculture or sexual expression.
- For couples and/or groups, this may manifest as Negotiation of Boundaries in primary and/or secondary intimate relationships.
- How to Talk to Children about Sex
- For parents and families, this often manifests in silence or difficulty talking about essential life issues related to human sexuality, such as pregnancy, family planning, STDs, healthy relationships, and Healthy Sexuality Throughout the Lifespan
The ABCs of Prostate Pleasure
We will refer to the Receiving Gentleman as RG, and to he or she who is the Giver of Pleasure as GOP (just to make things fun;).
Have your RG lie on his back, knees up in the air. The penis should be accessible for additional hand and mouth play. GOP, sit between your man’s legs, and warm him up by leisurely massaging his thighs, butt, and balls. Once he’s relaxed, and potentially aroused as well, apply copious amounts of lube on your insertion finger, and sensuously smear it on the rim of his anus. Allow your RG to gauge the speed as he invites you to slowly enter his anus. Keep your fingernail facing the back wall of his anus, the wall furthest from you. Remember, you only need to go in to about your knuckle (if you have shorter fingers, go a little further).
Once you are here, GOP, you may feel a round, raised area. If so, you have found the golden prostate! Like pressing a doorbell button, softly push your finger up towards the front wall (the one closest to you). As he adjusts to the new sensations and becomes more at ease, bend your finger into a "come here" position—like you were seductively soliciting your lover to approach you. With your other hand, stroke his shaft, or encourage him to rub it himself. Continue to explore by moving in and out with gentle finger thrusting. Again, follow his lead for more momentum, or ask him if he wants more pressure or faster stroking.